Top 3 Reasons We Fall In Love
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According to Hani Henry, chair and associate professor of psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology at AUC, Robert Sternberg's psychological theory covers the most common reasons why we fall in love, namely: intimacy, passion and commitment.
Intimacy
It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. "Sometimes it's self-serving. Everyone longs to feel loved and cared about. Women want to feel their femininity, and men want to feel their masculinity."
Adele's song Hello is a perfect example of how intimacy is captured. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song's chorus. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.
Passion
Normal to fall in love out of desire or strong feelings is normal. Passionate love can be developed from feelings that result in sexual attraction, romance and physical interest. "When gitarijada see someone you like, you are captivated by something that draws you to that person," explained Henry. "The attraction is not just physical. There is also a fascination for the hair, eyes, body."
Infatuation develops when there is no intimacy or commitment. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people view a person as an object and become obsessed. He said that you can live with someone for many years without feeling any commonality.
Commitment
Total love comes from commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.
Henry stated that today's young adults are more concerned about objects than they are about relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. The more consumerist a culture is, the less people are interested in making commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. Everything must be consumed, even relationships with other people.
Love Outside of the Triangular Theory
Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. Science doesn't have to explain why you fall in love. Henry said that personal needs include loneliness, fear, peer pressure, satisfaction, and religious values.
Despite what psychology has to say about love, the type of love we choose defines who we are. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love can be complex.
Intimacy
It is possible to fall in love for intimate reasons, but it does not require commitment or passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. "Sometimes it's self-serving. Everyone longs to feel loved and cared about. Women want to feel their femininity, and men want to feel their masculinity."
Adele's song Hello is a perfect example of how intimacy is captured. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song's chorus. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.
Passion
Normal to fall in love out of desire or strong feelings is normal. Passionate love can be developed from feelings that result in sexual attraction, romance and physical interest. "When gitarijada see someone you like, you are captivated by something that draws you to that person," explained Henry. "The attraction is not just physical. There is also a fascination for the hair, eyes, body."
Infatuation develops when there is no intimacy or commitment. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people view a person as an object and become obsessed. He said that you can live with someone for many years without feeling any commonality.
Commitment
Total love comes from commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.
Henry stated that today's young adults are more concerned about objects than they are about relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. The more consumerist a culture is, the less people are interested in making commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. Everything must be consumed, even relationships with other people.
Love Outside of the Triangular Theory
Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. Science doesn't have to explain why you fall in love. Henry said that personal needs include loneliness, fear, peer pressure, satisfaction, and religious values.
Despite what psychology has to say about love, the type of love we choose defines who we are. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love can be complex.
